When You are suffering pain in the case of a relationship breakup, it is often in the area of the heart that we feel this pain. Equally, for many people, the need to overcome the pain in a hurry is paramount. I am certain you more than likely know about the importance of getting over your hurts for your own good, as much as that of those around you.

However, it is often easier said than done, and in this way, I am hoping to help you with an exercise that has had some success. It’s an exercise that can be done when ever you are starting to feel a little overwhelmed with the pain and that is done as follows:

Close your eyes, and think, or even better still, feel where you are feeling this pain.

Is it in the pit of your stomach?

Is it a nauseous feeling that is overcoming you?

Are you perhaps feeling more vulnerable around the chest, like tightening feeling?

Understanding this can better help you cope with the feelings, and then, help you to deal with eliminating the feeling. This is similar to an exercise on forgiveness, that I learned from a book by Norman Vincent Peal.

What I am getting at here is that in order to feel better sooner rather than later, ask yourself if you can let this feeling go. Mentally, visualize the feeling melting away, and flying off in the wind. I know it is easier to say than do, but with a little proactive, it will get much easier. You can practice this process as often as you need over the course of the day. You will feel better, in some cases, within minutes, and in others, it may take a day or two of practice.

You will have a life that keeps on going after your breakup. It may even be temporary, depending on the outcome from the next month or two.

Give yourself some time to heal. Within the first month, you need to look after yourself. You will be in a much better position to help yourself, and others when you are in a better head space.

OK- You’ve experienced a Breakup. Painful- Yes, Ready for Desperation- No Way!

I know how easy it would be if you just wanted to do something stupid, like jump off a cliff, or worse. But seriously, it is never that bad, and I am about to spend a few days giving you some pointers to help you see this through. Today’s post is about not letting the depression issue get to you. Again, I know this is easy to say, but given time, you will see the wisdom of my words. I really do appreciate the pain you are going through, but know this: Acting impulsively at this time will only make things worse, and not better. So- what can we do?

Regarding the depression issue,

It is also a great idea to not make any super important decisions at this tim,e. You may not be in the right head space for that, and a decision made in haste can be very difficult to deal with later on. Avoid quick action, with little considered forethought.

I know this sounds very heavy, but my main aim here is to ensure you are clear in your mind relating to what you can safely do and what might be best avoided to avoid problems.

It is much better to be safe than sorry.

I will write more in future posts along the lines of this important subject of dealing with breakup.

For now, take the time to catch up on past ‘jobs’ around the house, or any project that you have had on the back burner, as it were. Keeping busy, involved and interested in other things is key to helping you get your head straight. As an added bonus, you will feel better by achieving other projects too.