Whenever you go through a difficult time, I can assure you that time does heal all. I also know you may well not see this at first, but it does make a difference, and I assure you that you do see the results you want, given time.

Learning from the Past

Irrespective of what may have happened, it is always a good idea to reflect on the events that lead to the breakup, and therefore, know what to work and improve on. Please note I am not suggesting that this be used as negative, self sabotage, but rather, as as platform to improve yourself. I know it is a fine line, but I think still very important to realise the difference.

The reason I have been ‘labouring’ this point is that when we are content and satisfied in ourselves, as to the people we are, we are more immune to any rejections that may occur outside of us. We all have feelings, desires, goals, hopes and dreams, and we need to ensure we are always working on them and our improvement.

It is for this reason that I am passionate about anyone who is recovering from a relationship breakup to ensure they are looking after themselves,a  and thus ensuring they are as attractive to their potential new partners as possible. Essentially, the idea is to ensure you are always at your very best. You deserve the best, and are maintaing your forward projectile to success and happiness. I know it sound a little full on, but regardless of weather you rejoin your ex or meet a new partner, you will be better able to move forward on your best foot.

In the case of relationship problems or breakup, it may well be very natural to actually collapse in front of the TV, and pend days there, eating the most unhealthy food from take away places imaginable. Now, if you do this for one night, now and again, no big deal. Fast food in very leveled moderation is fine. My point, however is to ensure you do not allow yourself to enter a very unhealthy pattern, where you simply damage your body, and end up feeling even worse. You may feel OK as you are scoffing the burger and chips down, but it really is not the way to go on a long term basis.

You really do need to put effort into this, and remember, it will not only help to solve this problem, but help you in so many other ways as well. We are going to be talking about

• diet,
• exercise,
• time out and recreation
• General personal development.

You yourself, won’t know yourself after this, and this is where it’s so worthwhile!

You can do all you set your mind to. That is a fact.

In relation to diet, it is important to ensure that you are eating healthy and nutritious meals. Why? Well, let’s look at some facts.

DIET

• You will feel healthier and look better
• You will in turn, be more likely to feel like being active, which will generate more endorphins, and keep you healthy.
• Your health being kept up gives you more energy.
• The kinds of food to eat include  a balanced diet of legumes, vegetables, nuts, cereals and so on. Keep the fast foods out of the equation. I realise how easy and tempting it can be, and if you insist, at least go for the fresh salads, and breads rather than greasy burgers and so on.

EXERCISE

This need not be a dirty word. I am not suggesting you practice for the olympics. Just a regular exercise like going for a thirty minute walk each day. It gives me energy, and time to think. I am talking about a brisk walk, where I am exercising the muscles, brain and heart. I talk about the brain, as this is my clear thinking time as well.

Time Out and Recreation

You can still enjoy life, be it alone, or with friends. If you want to see a movie, alone or with friends, or go out to dinner. There are plenty of alternatives. The idea here is to ensure that you are practicing a healthy life style. This is imperative.

Some further reading can include I Can as well as subconscious programming.

OK- You’ve experienced a Breakup. Painful- Yes, Ready for Desperation- No Way!

I know how easy it would be if you just wanted to do something stupid, like jump off a cliff, or worse. But seriously, it is never that bad, and I am about to spend a few days giving you some pointers to help you see this through. Today’s post is about not letting the depression issue get to you. Again, I know this is easy to say, but given time, you will see the wisdom of my words. I really do appreciate the pain you are going through, but know this: Acting impulsively at this time will only make things worse, and not better. So- what can we do?

Regarding the depression issue,

It is also a great idea to not make any super important decisions at this tim,e. You may not be in the right head space for that, and a decision made in haste can be very difficult to deal with later on. Avoid quick action, with little considered forethought.

I know this sounds very heavy, but my main aim here is to ensure you are clear in your mind relating to what you can safely do and what might be best avoided to avoid problems.

It is much better to be safe than sorry.

I will write more in future posts along the lines of this important subject of dealing with breakup.

For now, take the time to catch up on past ‘jobs’ around the house, or any project that you have had on the back burner, as it were. Keeping busy, involved and interested in other things is key to helping you get your head straight. As an added bonus, you will feel better by achieving other projects too.

I know that for many people, going through a difficult life changing relationship breakup can be traumatic, to say the least. What can we do about this, if anything at all?  The good news is that there is a great deal we can do when we are in a difficult time within ourselves. I have found that if the following has happened, consider the options below:

Possible Difficult Events in Our Lives To Deal With

• Breakup of Relationship
• Partner has walked out
• Partner has threatened to walk out
• Tension in relationship and other relationship issues

Some possible ways to deal with the situation

• If your partner is still there, but it’s looking shaky, take the time to really ask them what they would like. Be giving, but not in any desperate way. Desperation just creates repulsion, and does not work at all.

If they have already left, listen to what they have said, and give them time to cool down,. I know it is easy to say all of this, but it is important to listen to all the situational signals as well. When you are very vulnerable, you are prone to making even bigger mistakes, and this is best not done. Believe me, it is too risky.

This is where I suggest you take some time to yourself and really work on yourself. Stay with me here. I know what I am suggesting as I have been there in various ways before, and it is really important to ensure that you can be better at being yourself.

I think that it is imperative to ensure that you are always keeping busy.

I also think and genuinely believe that now is a great time to ensure that you are also taking good care of yourself. This is in the form of exercise, assurance in your appearance, and so on,. Looking after yourself will help you to feel much better as well as also much more in control. I know that some people may think it is just vain, However, it is very important to ensure you are looking after yourself in all ways, to help your confidence and self esteem. However, what about your partner?  Yes. I understand. However, as easy as I know it is for me to say this, you really do need to also be looking after yourself as well. After all, you are more attractive outwardly when you are happier with confidence inwardly.

To he;p along with this, make a decision. Activate yourself with empowerment.

Make a Decision. Be proactive in looking after yourself first.

Put good out there in the universe. You will be rewarded. I know this sounds really easy, and I certainly can assure you that on the other hand, it does take effort. However, that is a very worth while effort I assure you.

Expect Increase In Your Life.

Expect Good things to come from this.



I know it is easy to say, but you are a person you need to love first of all. If you do not love yourself, how can anyone else love you as well? It’s food for thought…

Resources for Assistance

I understand that all relationships require work, and sometimes, it still seems so hard.

I have found that working on myself can, and has made a big difference for me, and for this reason, I am so passionate about the Success Strategies Daily Routine as well.

You have to regularly ensure you are feeding your mind positive and well structured thoughts so as to ensure you are ‘mentally alert, and at your best.

I highly recommend the Self Help Data base with the latest books for self improvement as well.

You will be very happy with the results, and having a focused, and well ‘lubricated’ mind will help you deal with any other problem in life, very much more effectively as well.