What Part Does Sex Play in Casual Relationships?
By Lidy W Seysener

I received a wonderful email last week raising a question about the definition of ‘casual relationship’ opposed to ‘serious relationship’. I have some thoughts on this but I would love to throw this out to all of you for your thoughts as well.

The person who sent the question thought that, for her, a casual relationship becomes a serious relationship when sex comes into play. The person she was having the conversation with on this topic, a male, suggested that even casual relationships could be sexual.

I’m going to agree with both and I think what it comes down to is not so much the definition of ‘relationship’ but more the definition of ‘sex’. Sex can be present in casual relationships though, for many, this might be considered more something a man would do rather than a woman. The argument here is often that while sex for a man can be purely a physical act, for a woman sex is always emotional. The truth about this is that, I believe, that sex can be purely physical for a woman as well.

On the contrary though, sex in a serious relationship is more likely to be an emotional act for both people as this now becomes less about satisfying a selfish physical need for sex and more of a representation of one person’s love and care for another by which sex becomes more a selfless act of pleasing another person.

So what then is the definition of ‘relationship’? This one sent me scurrying to the dictionary which said, amongst other things, that “relationship is an emotional connection between people, sometimes involving sexual relations”. Obviously there can be many kinds of relationships between people but I guess we most often think of relationship as some intimate connection between two people and if this is serious then indeed there may be a sexual connection as well though not necessarily.

So, as my reader also suggested, “there is no answer to this, because of our sexual biases (or desires)”, but a topic that is well worthwhile opening up for discussion.

What do you think?

If you would like to enter into this conversation please add your comments via the link at the bottom of my blog.

So until next time – Relate with Love

Lidy Seysener

About the Author

As a qualified Counselor, Lidy Seysener specializes in helping individuals and couples make the most of their lives and their relationships. She’s been Counseling for more than twenty years and can also boast having been in an enduring relationship for as long.

For more information about me or what I do take a look at my newest website: http://www.acouplesjourney.com where you will get a free copy of my limited edition eBook titled ‘Relationships – A Couples Journey’. Alternatively check out my blog page at: http://www.lidysblog.uwcblog.com and submit a question of your own that you would like me to answer.

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Is Your Relationship Ready For Sex? Five Signs It’s Still Too Soon
By Toby Hardwick

One of the biggest mistakes some people who are looking for a relationship is wanting to have one because of all the wrong reasons such having a sex partner. Having sex too soon can break a potential relationship. There are various factors you may want to look into before diving into that blissful phase in your relationship.

You’re not entirely comfortable with each other

Intimacy is not entirely based on sex. You can be intimate with someone without doing it. If you find yourself being in an intimate situation with someone such as kissing and feeling like you want more, then probably you’re ready but having a make-out session and feeling like one of you wants to stop, then stop before you go any further. You don’t want to end realizing after, that you should have listened to that tiny voice in your head.

You’re not ready yourself

If you don’t feel like having sex yet, don’t do it. Having sex too soon can affect you emotionally especially if you’re doing it for all the wrong reasons. Getting to know a person can tell a great deal on how they want to be treated in bed and establishing a certain understanding before hitting the sack can better your performance.

If it’s your or her first time, the only thing to do is wait until both of you are ready. Don’t have sex, thinking maybe, it will break the tension between the two of you and just to get it done and over with. Remember, if it’s the first time, whether for you or her or for the both of you, it’s going to be unforgettable – whether it was good or bad. If she turns out to be the person you’d least expect to have sex with in the first place, you’re gonna be wishing you should’ve waited until you know that person better.

You’re Dreading the Morning After

Will you be able to look the person in the eye after you’ve had sex? Will you be prepared for the responsibilities that come along with it? Most women feel more attached to a man after they’ve had sex even if they’ve just been seeing that person for not too long. Are you ready for whatever consequences there may be? Are you planning to call her after even if the sex wasn’t great? Would you know how to handle her if she pulls a Carrie on you if you don’t call her back? If you answered more No’s than yes, wait a little more.

You’re not sure if she wants it either

Never force someone into having sex with you because first of all – it can get you a room in the slammer. You’ll know when you’re ready to do it or having sex is too soon. Don’t think that only women have that little voice inside their head that warns them if they should have sex or not. Men have it too and like other women who chose to ignore it, end up regretting it. If you attempt to go further and you feel that she’s already pulling away, respect that and wait for her to be ready.

You’re not ready to go deeper into the relationship

Having sex too soon is a messy situation that’s hard to get out of. Having sex seals a good amount of trust with that certain someone and you may not know it but a woman needs that trust and feeling of being safe with you. You neglect to give her that and things will start to get messy. Being comfortable with someone also means you’re ready to open up more things about yourself to her and accept her. If you’re not ready to be with her, don’t dive in to your cravings, you might not get out alive.

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Charming Sex Secrets – Be the Sexual Man in the Relationship
By Marry Lengley

You can never be the sexual man in the relationship if you are living hectic and stressful life. The truth is, however, that a man with hectic life always repels women. A woman knows that a man with hectic life will always degrade her and stay serious in the relationship. She wants a sexually attractive man who not only dominates his work but also keep his relationship exciting with fun and charming sex.

HOW TO BE THE SEXUAL MAN IN THE RELATIONSHIP?

If you want to be the sexual man in the relationship then you have to build an attractive character. Now, we all know at some level that body language or humor cannot make us the sexual man. In fact, it is entirely impossible to create attraction in persona with body language because body language alone is like a tip of an iceberg in attraction.

Movie directors, superstars and leaders are hiding the actual secrets of attraction. That’s why; they have high values in the eyes of women. They not only make women drool over them but also project themselves as a sexually powerful man.

Now, you must be wondering that which secrets they use in order to attract women. Well, there are millions of hidden secrets which are still hidden under the collars of attractive men. For example, do you know that attaché case increases your values and makes you attractive? A man with attaché case beats the other 99 percent of confident men when it comes to create attraction. He projects his authority and becomes the attractive character for women.

A man with attaché case always projects that he is in charge and serious about his life goals. In addition, he projects his sexual dominance and becomes the leader of room instantly. Suppose, if an average man is like a bus and a confident is like car then a man with attaché case is like a private jet. Women will always love to ride on a private jet instead of a car.

When you appear with attaché case and suit, you not only make yourself dominant but also increase your value. It is like you are the boss of confident guys. When you appear with suit, attaché case and strong posture, the value of other guys automatically decreases. You get the attention and make yourself superior.

There are millions of little things which make you sexual. For example, use the power of hard cash. Hard cash is more attractive than a credit card. Gamblers, business tycoons and authoritative people do the deals in hard cash and make glamorous models worship them entire life. So, if you want to be a sexual man in the relationship then use the power of hard cash and focus on little details which make you super attractive.

CHARMING SEX SECRETS

In order to enjoy charming sex in your relationship, you need to use your playful authority. A man with playful authority exists in the fantasies of women. Do you know why vampires are super attractive for women? Vampires are extremely attractive for women because they use their authority in playful way. Their playful authority makes them extremely romantic and sexual for women. They make women excited with their sexual charm.

If you want to enjoy charming sex sessions in your relationship then first you need to be a charming man. A charming man is the socially intelligent person and demonstrates his charm in social circles. He has unique communication style with strong posture. He communicates in sexual way and intensifies the sexual feeling inside women. For example, he uses people’s name in conversations. A woman also loves it when you use her name in conversation.

• CHARMING SEX: Charming sex is all about creating sexual intimacy. If you want to create sexual intimacy then stare at her with lustful desire. Your lust for her body will make her feel sexual. When you stare at her with lustful desire, you put yourself in dominant position.

Do taboo things in charming sex sessions. A woman badly loves taboo things. Taboo things exists in the sexual fantasies of her and make her wet. You can make her feel taboo in many ways during foreplay or charming sex. For example, expose her breast and cup her boobs in your hands while hugging her from back. Let her feel your rigid cock against her ass.

The combination of two sexual moves will drive her wild. For example, suck her earlobes while rubbing her belly or clitoris. Take her in your lap and press her thighs while sucking her lips. When you take a woman in your lap you automatically put yourself in dominant position and she also loves to be ravished by a dominant man.

If you want to be the sexual man in relationship then you can use the power of spanking. Spank her with scale in playful way. Spanking is like a thrill and make woman sexually surrender in front of you. The thrill of spanking can be fun in romance and wild love making. You can start it in a playful way and make your woman erotic within minutes. It is like putting foreplay on steroids. You can make a woman feel sexual, naughty and erotic with the power of spanking.

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Controlling Husband – Sex, Control and Bulldozed Intimacy in Abusive Relationships
By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

A controlling husband wants what he wants when he wants it…and that includes sex. If you are in a controlling relationship, you know the nuances of sex and control.

Women in abusive relationships both accept and hate the way their partners bulldoze their way through the covers from cuddling to orgasm. They know their sexual relations are largely about control, and they accept that as part of the relationship.

Bulldozed Intimacy and Control

What is the difference in the control dynamics between “bulldozed intimacy” and “cat and mouse arousal?” Now, of course, these are not clinical words…they are verbal images and they may speak the distinction for you.

Bulldozed intimacy looks a lot like a bull in a china shop. They show up…charge in… Bar none, they have their “free for all.” They own the shop and whatever is there is for the taking. It’s more of a reach and grab effort.

Whereas, cat and mouse arousal is more of a “reach and give” interaction. It has all of the qualities of flirtation and tease that you think of with cat and mouse interplay. It’s clearly interactive, back and forth and collaboratively and inter-intentional-the efforts of one evoke that of the other. Unlike bulldozed intimacy, wherein the efforts of one cascade unilaterally irrespective of the other.

Sex and Control as a Sign of Partner Abuse

Since sexual intimacy is such a central part of intimate relationships, one can trust that the landscape of their sexual encounter can reveal the larger dynamic of the interpersonal relationship. If your intimate encounters are bulldozed, take a hard and honest look at the way these same dynamics show up in your relationship in general.

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Tantric Sex – Reignite Your Relationship With the Pleasure Game
By Crystal Dawn Morris

At the beginning of a relationship sex is often spontaneous, intense and erotic. This phenomenon is called the Honeymoon phase. It is when the “New Relationship Energy” or NRE, makes everything exciting. Over time the NRE naturally fades, romance dwindles, passion wanes and sex often becomes routine. The Pleasure Game is one way to rekindle the passion and romance in your relationship.

1) Make a date. When life gets busy it is easy to forget to schedule time for you and your beloved to have uninterrupted time together. Turn off your cell phones, shut off the TV, and disconnect from the outside world.

2) Create an altar or temple area by decorating the space where you are going to play so it feels as if you are somewhere special. Use fabrics, candles, flowers or whatever feels right to make the space feel inviting and exotic. I know a guy who surprised his wife by turning his garage into a Temple and making his Harley-Davidson into an altar where he invited her to be pleasured.

3) Take a ritual bath, using it as a transition into sacred time. Allow the bath or shower to wash away the cares of the day. Make a commitment to avoid digressing into mundane concerns about the house, kids or work. Dress in clothes that make you feel special, like a God or Goddess.

4) Sit facing each other; create a bubble around both of you. Use your arms to define the shape of the bubble, imagine it surrounds both of you. This bubble allows you to let go of the outside world and create a safe and sacred space to play the “Pleasure Game.” Remove things from your bubble that might interfere with you enjoying the game. Do this by stating out loud what you are removing from the bubble and at the same time make a gesture as you remove it. Examples may include: the past, distractions, anger, work, etc. Then, bring things into your bubble that will enhance the experience and make a gesture as you bring them into the bubble. Examples might include: love, sensuality, presence, trust, etc. Once the bubble is created, share your desires, fears and boundaries related to this game. (Boundaries are what you need to feel safe and stay open.) One person speaks while the other listens without judgment or commentary, then you switch roles.

5) Before beginning the game take a few minutes to look into each other’s eyes and breathe together. Allow your hearts to connect and begin to feel the energy flowing between you. Imagine that as you explore pleasure together you are doing it not only for yourselves but for all the men and women in the world.

6) Play the Pleasure Game. Decide how much time you have to play the game and divide the time in half. Pick who will give and who will receive first. The receiver then tells the giver how they want to be pleasured for their allotted amount of time. Then the roles are reversed.

Some requests might include: hair brushing, a pedicure or a massage, acting out a fantasy, performing a favorite sexual act, trying a new sexual position, mutual self-pleasuring, erotic storytelling, getting naked and doing some “Dirty Dancing,” making love in a car or some other unusual place. Be creative, ask for what you want. Take this opportunity to be daring and move beyond your comfort zone while honoring your partner’s boundaries. Don’t insist that they do something they aren’t ready or willing to do. When this ritual is done with a playful and open heart it can be a great way to revitalize and enhance your relationship.

Tantra recognizes that everything is alive and connected. It embraces all areas of life as a path to awakening, including sexuality. Sex is seen as a doorway to the Divine. By bringing conscious awareness into this practice we can enhance our connection to our beloved and help make the world a better place to live. The Pleasure Game is one way to reignite the passion in your relationship. Taking time to connect in a special way with your beloved goes a long way toward creating a happy, healthy relationship.

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Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and the founder of Tantra for Awakening. She offers private coaching in person and on the phone. She is committed to creating a more conscious and compassionate world. She also teaches a 9-month Tantra teacher certification program called The Art and Business of Teaching Tantra. She lives in Sedona, AZ where she teaches Tantra workshops, practices yoga, and writes. She loves to travel and is open to teaching and coaching in your community.

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