I know this is easy to say, but please realise, that your recent breakup is not another problem in life- but rather a wake up call!

This could be a good thing.

Before you bash me up, metaphorically, let me explain.

You may feel that you have had no control over this situation, or that your life is not worth living right now.

One thing I can say for sure is that this feeling will pass…

I would like to put some helpful suggestions in the mix here.

I am not pretendingt hat you don’t feel less than your usual self, but let’s face this- this is a time when you can rebuild yourself- for you alone, and that way, begin to feel better yourself.

This way, apart from the obvious improvement for you, you automatically become a more atrtractive person to others, and even your ex,  for that matter.

Learning these skills can be made easier by following well written instructions on relationships and applying them to your life.

I am frequently amazed at the way people improve, by taking up a new hobby, or beginning to look after their health better.

Again, this is all about one of the many techniques to improve yourself, to make you more attractive to others, and potentially, your ex, if that is how you want to go.

Ther are many other ‘things’ and techniquers you can apply, and they are presented in a well written guide on relationships.

Head to the Magic of Making Up, and see for yourself-…

Short Editorial Review of Below Article on Relationships

I have included a short review of the article below, as I believe it has great value, as part of your over all strategy to connect with others in the relationship arena.

I certainly feel the body of the article makes sense, and you need to use the internet wisely.

There are many methods to meet new people, and the net is just one of them.

By looking at the materia in the Magic of Making Up- A Relationship guide- you can see for yourself, the benefits in being abetter person, in your own right, and thus, by being well rounded, centred, and happy,  you will more easily attract others to you.

Where you look for sound relationship advice online will determine whether you get advice that you can take in, apply, and work towards a satisfactory conclusion or whether you find yourself on a forum defending your original relationship choice. For most of us, forums provide a great place to sound off, rant, and get specific advice when we can’t come up with our own answers. However, for every forum out there, you are guaranteed to find that one little clique that is going to bash you in order to make themselves feel better about their own relationship (or lack thereof.) So when you start thinking “advice” you might want to start thinking website over forum. While there are exceptions to that little rule, it can be difficult to find out that the forum you chose isn’t safe from the one or two people trying to work on their own life.

There are, however, some pretty fantastic websites that offer some pretty down to earth and realistic relationship advice online. Some of these have a forum (which has been proven to be more respectful than those without dedicated advice websites to adhere to them) and others rely on articles for advice. Either way, there are websites that can provide you with insight to help you work through almost any relationship issue.

Since relationship issues can be (or seem) monumental, I would recommend checking out websites for relationship advice with a slow and steady wins the race attitude. Start small. If your relationship is headed toward heartbreak because you suspect your significant other is cheating, don’t start just looking for the answers to the big question. Start by looking for answers dealing with communication styles, expressing feelings, and spicing up the romance. Chances are that you will still learn a great deal without being completely emotionally invested in the possible responses.

Read through the articles and the blogs to find the relationship advice website that will enable you connect with their basic relationship philosophies. You might be looking for a website that posts articles and forums in a completely relational aspect. Others might have a religious twist. Some may offer a more do-it-yourself philosophy, and so on. Just because the article was printed doesn’t mean it follows your basic relationship philosophy. Finding out that there isn’t the tight connection can end up being frustrating.

No matter what, remember that you are your own individual person with your own relationship. Whatever the consequences to your decisions may be, they are also your to live with. Whenever you read relationship advice online, take a little time to think about the potential consequences, the potential results, and whether there is any type of potential to enhance your relationship by following the advice offered. It’s not always about beginner’s luck.

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Again, I have chosen this article for the style, and down- to – earth way that it is written in, very similar to the book on the Magic of Making Up, available from an experienced survivor of breakup.

 
There’s no denying it:

Getting over a breakup can be one of the most difficult, heart-wrenching things you’ll ever have to do. One of the things that keeps men from moving on after a relationship has ended is holding on to false hope. Some men are stuck in limbo with the idea that there might be a chance of getting back together with their exes.

The result of such a belief is a double-edged rejection sword. First comes the initial sting originating from the breakup itself; then comes the heartbreaking hope that she will return; then comes the eventual realization that she doesn’t regret leaving you and that she is gone for good.

All this pain could be kept short and sweet and you can recover from a breakup quickly if you learn to accept the decision made by your ex. By waiting around and hoping, any man is trapping himself in an endless circle of torture.

So, to get yourself out of this cycle and recover from a breakup quickly, follow these tips we’ve compiled to help you on your journey.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself
Over the years, men have earned the reputation of being big babies because they’re always feeling sorry for themselves. Being dumped only adds to this.

Every man thinks his breakup is the most traumatic one in history. The truth of the matter is that breakups always follow the same pattern, and life goes on. If you keep thinking about how badly you’ve been hurt, you will continue to hurt. To recover from a breakup quickly, stop feeling sorry for yourself and be determined and proactive in helping yourself get over her.

Destroy the past
As I mentioned before, many dumped men remain trapped in a limbo state of mind, hoping that their ex will return to them, but they will never admit to this. In front of their buddies, they claim to be over the breakup and swear that their girlfriend no longer means anything to them, but if you ask them to throw away all the love letters and pictures, they’ll refuse. Why? In case she does return, they won’t have to start a whole new photo collection.

To recover from a breakup quickly, you need to destroy or burn anything that reminds you of her. If you find it difficult, this means that you can’t let go and you’re still hoping for her to return to you. Believe me, once you meet another woman, all those pictures of your ex will become meaningless.

Initially it will be difficult, but once you’ve destroyed all the memorabilia of your ex, you’ll have no choice but to move on, and you won’t have anything around to remind you of her and cause you to feel sorry for yourself.

Rearranging the furniture around the house helps you recover from a breakup quickly also. This will lend a new feel to the rooms — especially the bedroom — and can help you forget old memories and build new ones.

Remember your family and friends
A man can sometimes fall victim to his blind love and spend too much time with his woman, leading him to forget his family. In the end, however, once he’s been dumped, he soon realizes the importance of his family and friends.

Spending quality time with your blood — the people who stick with you through tough times — is a sure way to recover from a breakup quickly. It will serve as a reminder of who you were before your relationship started, and the people who love you most will encourage and help you to get back on your feet, which is exactly the kind of push you need in a situation like this.

Repair your ego
Your ego just took a heavy blow, so the last thing you want is to get back into the dating scene and suffer the consequences of the rejection that comes from dating — you’ll take it too personally.

The solution to repairing your ego is to start off slowly by first making friends and doing fun activities such as sports, dance lessons and training at the gym. Getting your body in shape will eventually give you the confidence to meet new women and rebuild your ego.

Once you feel comfortable and decide to get back into the dating game, it will be a lot easier to meet women since you have planted some seeds and you won’t look as desperate.

Get motivated
Some men have bitter feelings toward their ex-girlfriends. Some behave in violent and crazy ways, while others let their performance level take a downward fall, be it in school or at work. However, you shouldn’t let the actions of a woman dictate the way the rest of your life will turn out.

The sweetest revenge one could have is to be successful. Being dumped is actually the best motivation to help push you to succeed in life. There is no better feeling than bumping into your ex four years down the road after you’ve dropped 20 pounds, put on a rock-hard six-pack, and started your own lucrative business — not to mention a beautiful Swedish wife standing by your side.

You won’t have to worry about hiding the fact that you work for a local McDonald’s. Instead, when your ex asks you what you’ve done with your life, you can start off with a big smile on your face, look at her wife-abusing husband and the rest is history.

The article below is one I found on a website recently, that I feel summarises the benefits of dealing with breakup, in a very level headed way.

I was particularly impressed with the straight forward way this article was written in, and is very similar to the material in the eBook, available from the Magic of Making Up.

 So, you’ve been dumped. It’s a part of life and it’s one that never gets any easier. One minute you’re riding a relationship that’s ascending like a rocket and the next your self-esteem is scattered across the countryside.

When this unfortunate turn of events takes place, and after you’ve sufficiently grieved over your loss, you are going to find yourself with a lot more free time and a lot more time to think. A decision or activity that used to take hours, say dinner, is reduced to a matter of minutes in front of a microwave oven.

What you need are post-breakup distractions, and there are plenty out there. While you may be tempted to get smashed and hook up with a new rebound girl every night, this is not a long-term solution. To do so is to be unhealthy to both your psyche and your liver.

What you need is substantive, regular and reliable life-affirming activities (aka, post-breakup distractions) to get your life in order.

Learn a new physical activity

In the wake of a recent breakup, you’re going to be filled with pent-up energy that’s screaming to get out. Getting back to the gym may seem like the perfect outlet, and it may be just that, but you have to go with the right attitude. Doing an extra set on the bench isn’t going to be enough. Merely exhausting yourself won’t cut it either. Instead, develop a new physical skill.

Surely there are items on your proverbial to-do list that haven’t been checked off yet. This is a perfect time to learn a martial art or take up rock climbing as the ideal post-breakup distraction. Even something like getting your motorcycle license will not only allow you to physically blow off some steam, but by accomplishing something you’ll do a great deal toward regaining and rebuilding your confidence.

Guys’ night

Relationships have a tendency to atrophy aspects of your social life that you used to love. They become weak and wither away without you even noticing. Guys’ night is one such aspect, and is a great post-breakup distraction. She never liked your friends and thought you were above them. Guess what, you weren’t. Your friends have an enormous influence on you and will be there for you when she blows your world apart. Now that you’re left to pick up the pieces, refocus your priorities.

Try and make guys’ night a regular occurrence. A weekly poker night, trip to the bar or pool hall adds some stability to your life. Plus, hanging out with the guys on a regular basis again will thicken your skin via the constant ribbing, and your friends will reintroduce you to a little skill called networking. You’ve been out of the pride for a while, so you’ll want to retrain your hunting skills.

Post-breakup distractions are key to moving on with your life.

Get away

When you’re in a relationship, even for a short period of time, familiar surroundings become associated with your now ex-girlfriend. Think about getting out of your set routine and change your surroundings.

Take a buddy and hit up a new city. Go to new bars and hit on new, presumably more exotic women. Even if you can only get away for a weekend of camping, do it. In the grand scheme of things, the change of surroundings will give you some new perspective and put your problems in their proper place.

Reconnect with old friends

The last time you scrolled through the phone book on your cell phone you probably noticed more than a few names that haven’t been dialed in a very long time; now you have the time call up some old friends you haven’t seen in a while. People just lose touch when a relationship eats up the vast majority of their free time — and most people understand this.

Getting back in touch with old friends allows you to move and shake in entirely new social circles or at least ones you haven’t frequented in a while, which is a bang-on perfect post-breakup distraction.

Start something new

A relationship becomes the status quo in your life. When the relationship ends, a litany of possible projects present themselves to you. Seize the opportunity to embark on some post-breakup distractions and make some changes that reinvent who you are.

Sign up for a course online, at the local community college or at a nearby university. Take something that’s relevant to your job and can help secure higher pay in the future. Employers often cite education as a key factor in any employee’s potential growth.
Start writing that novel that’s been kicking around inside your head for years. Without the time constraints of a relationship, you finally have time to really create something new in the world.

Learn a new skill like motorcycle repair or piano tuning. This time of post-breakup distractions is a golden opportunity to redefine who you are going to be in the world. Look upon this chance as a new beginning instead of an end.

prime-time distractions

The void your ex-girlfriend has left in your life may make you feel like your life is over. And truth be told, you may not have realized just how much time she occupied. Fortunately, as a man, there is a world of activity, promise and opportunity out there to occupy your time in the absence of a steady relationship. No matter the level of dejection or how much time you need to fill, life is ready to remind you just how much you enjoy being a man.

The article below is one I found on a website recently, that I feel summarises the benefits of dealing with breakup, in a very level headed way.

I was particularly impressed with the straight forward way this article was written in, and is very similar to the material in the eBook, available from the Magic of Making Up.

 Below, I have included an article that I thought represents food for thought.

In any relationship, there needs to be respect, and love as well.

This is all part of thinking about your past, and what you can do in the future to better yourself…

More information is available from my site on surviving  broken relationships

Do You Want Him to Respect You… or Cherish You? by Cherry Norris

“The most important thing is to have a man respect me!” Ellie proclaimed.

“Do you want a man to cherish your feelings?” I asked.

“Of course. I want that too,” Ellie added.

“Fine. Stay single and take two lovers.”

If you want to be respected and feel cherished in a romantic relationship, you’ll need two partners.

One can respect your ideas and follow your lead. The other can cherish your feelings and make the plans.

See? You can have it all.

Just not at the same time.

Or with the same person.

(Unless he’s a “doormat” who doesn’t have a voice. Or is soooo spineless. Ewww.)

In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels cherished for feelings and the other is respected for thoughts.

If you want to be respected for your thinking AND cherished for your feelings, there is simply no space for another person.

When you Voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship it means you choose to have your feelings cherished over your thoughts respected and you are willing to follow your man as long as he’s moral, ethical and legal.

This doesn’t mean you can’t be respected for your thoughts Ever…it just means you choose to have your feelings cherished first.

When a man cherishes your feelings, you’ll actually feel respected.

(Think about that for a moment!)

When you don’t feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man…and he “respects” your feelings…he’s actually cherishing you! (Pretty cool, huh?)

When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You’re the man! When a man respects what you think and want…you are the “Hero” of your relationship.

Many times you go competitive with your partner and you don’t know why. The reason is because you both want to tell each other what to do…or you both wait for the other person to make the plan!

So when you’re meeting a new man…or if you’re already with someone…decide:

Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?

OR:

Do you want to be cherished for your feelings and are willing to voluntarily give up your lead and follow your respected partner?

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Cherry Norris is a renowned celebrity dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. Based in Los Angeles, California, Cherry’s passion is helping people build healthy, intimate romantic relationships. Under her direction, you will learn the skills and techniques for dating that will have you starring in the role of a lifetime! For FREE Dating Directions newsletter and event calendar, GO HERE: Dating Directions Newsletter
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