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3 Tips When You Want to Win Back Your Woman
By Otto Collins

Jeff is ready with flowers, candies, love poems and more. His girlfriend broke up with him a couple of weeks ago and he’s determined to win her back.

The first days after she told him that she wanted to stop seeing him were horrible for Jeff. He had no appetite and he could barely concentrate on anything at work or home. His friends tried to distract him and cheer him up, but nothing has worked.

Finally, Jeff got over the initial shock of the break up and now he’s willing to do whatever it takes to win back his woman. He still can’t understand why she’d want to leave their relationship.

If you want to win back your woman, you might be ready to do whatever it takes, just like Jeff. However, before you start to send those flowers and cards, I advise you to take some time to think about what you’re doing.

Pretending that there were no problems in your love relationship or marriage– or that your problems can be swept away with some gifts and romantic words– will not help you or your ex in the long run.

This certainly won’t win her back either.

Instead, try these 3 tips…

#1: Ask yourself this question: “Is this wise?”

I understand. You love this woman. She was the light of your life. Now, you want all of that back. You want her back in your life and in your bed.

There is a huge difference between what you want and what is in your best interests. Really assess what happened in your relationship together and also what is going on now for both you and for your ex.

Continue to ask yourself “Is it wise to try and get back together with her?”

You both might still care about (and love) each other very much, but there could be some reasons why it’s not in either of your best interests to reunite.

Some reasons might include: addiction issues, one or both of you are in new relationships, uncontrollable anger issues, abuse (emotional, physical, sexual), infidelity, inability to forgive infidelity and more.

I can’t give you a finite list of what’s “wise” and what’s “unwise.” This has to be determined by you. What is most important is for you to ask yourself that question.

#2: Take an honest look at your ended relationship.

If you decide that it IS in your best interests to try to win back your ex, before you set out to woo her, take some time to learn from the past. I never recommend that a person live in the past or become fixated on what happened in the past.

At the same time, it’s helpful to understand the personal and relationship habits that contributed to you and your woman becoming disconnected and then breaking up.

Try to recall what happened as if you were an observer looking in on your ended relationship. Take note of the specific habits that played a role in the distance that drove you two apart. Pay particular attention to areas such as communication, trust and intimacy.

This isn’t about figuring out who was to blame for your break up. It is about gaining a clearer understanding of what happened and being willing to try some different things in the future.

#3: Make amends and be open to creating agreements.

If your woman is willing to explore getting back together with you again, be sure to make amends for your share in the problems you two had in the past.

You can let her know that you want to start fresh with her, but that you also are willing to acknowledge you role in past hurts. If you are making apologies, make sure they are genuine and from the heart.

As you two spend time together, be on the lookout for you both falling into those disconnecting relationship habits. When something starts to develop, suggest an agreement that will help take you two in a different direction.

Otto Collin teaches men the secrets to lighting up their woman and offers men’s relationship advice. For Otto’s free report: “The 10 Biggest Relationship & Passion-Killing Mistakes Men Make and What To Do About Them” when you sign up for his FREE relationship advice newsletter for men at www.LightHerUp.com  

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How to Win Her Love – Tips to Make Just About Any Woman Fall in Love With YOU
By Chris Tyler

For most people, love tends to be one of those really complicated things that just seems to either happen or it doesn’t. This seems to be especially true for the average guy, as we all have been in situations where we thought that we were doing everything just right and assumed that the woman we desired would have to fall in love with us, only to find out that is just not the case. Is that the way that it has to be, or is there something or some things that you can do to kind of make sure that you do win over the woman you really want to be with?

Here are some tips on how to win her love that should be able to make almost any woman you want fall for you:

1. You have to draw out of a woman what qualities she values most so that you know what to emphasize about yourself.

This is why you really need to be a good listener and pay attention to what a woman is saying, because it is almost inevitable that if you get her talking and you ask the right questions, you will be able to get a good idea of the things that attract her the most in a guy. Some guys seem to gloss over the listening thing, but if you really want to get clued in on what she desires most in a guy and what she responds to the most, get her talking and pay attention to what she is saying.

2. You also have to make a woman feel like she has to find a way to win YOU over.

Way too often, guys will pursue love like it was a one way street. What I am saying is, they do all of the pursuing, the chasing, and they never give the woman the opportunity to do the same. Well, you can’t really expect a woman to fall in love with you if you are the only one that is doing all of the chasing and the pursuing, can you? As much as you want to win her over, she needs to feel the same way.

3. There has to be sexual chemistry and attraction between you and the woman you want to win over.

What happens when there is a lot of affection and attraction on the guy’s part and only affection without attraction on the woman’s part? You get one of those friendships where the guy really wants to be her boyfriend and she never, ever feels that way at all. If you do not want to go through that experience, then you NEED to spark some sexual chemistry and attraction with her.

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How To Get A Woman You Want To Break Up With Her Boyfriend & Go Out With You

By Kurt Dight

It happens a lot – you meet a great new girl, you guys click, but there is one problem…

She has a boyfriend.

You know you should move on. But you can’t get her out of your head. Don’t worry, if you really want her, there is a way. It’s underhanded, potentially unethical, and probably not the best course of action. Yet, I know the answer is wanted, because as a dating coach it comes up time and time again. “Kurt, how do I pick up a woman who already has a boyfriend?”

It’s simple. Separate them.

Enough idle chit chat. Let’s get down to business. First, you must become part of her life. Not an acquaintance, or some dude she works with. You must enter stealth mode. Find something you have in common, and establish a connection with her, with some underlying flirtation involved. This flirting must be subtle, not direct. Think of this as planting the seed.

Next, slowly begin to bring your conversation with her toward her relationship problems. You must work around the edges, slowly, until she reveals her problems to you. And she will reveal problems, because no relationship is problem free.

Typically these problems revolve around money, sex, work and house work. These are the areas you want to bring up in conversation to see what she reveals. Often, when she brings up a minor problem, it’s really the surface of a deeper, touchier issue. For example, a small gripe about housework may actually be rooted in her problem that she feels her boyfriend is controlling the relationship.

What to do now? Blast her boyfriend? Not quite. First, slyly keep bringing these issues to the surface. This will constantly remind her of how unhappy she is. While you’re doing this, you must also keep flirting with her indirectly. Otherwise you’ll be her friend. Not wanted. Soon, she’ll start to openly complain about every bad aspect of her relationship. This is where you can really screw it up if you don’t know what you’re doing.

If you’re too agreeable with her, you’ll be thought of as a wussy in her eyes. It’ll be obvious you’re trying too hard to win her affection. And if you attack him, you’ll find she is likely to defend him, and this makes her concentrate on his good qualities.

Here’s a better way: give her scenarios justifying her partner’s actions while making it clear you don’t behave the same way. For example, “While it’s not common for guys to do that, maybe he does it because…”. Usually, humans want to win arguments. You are setting up an argument with her, and for her to win it, she will have to convince you that her boyfriend is no good for her. This will also convince her, too.

So, let her win. After a good debate, agree that she is right. You’ve argued for her boyfriend’s qualities, and lost. She’s right and you’re wrong. And because you were arguing for her boyfriend, he is also wrong. Get it?

This works on another level, too. It allows you to stay undercover. No one will suspect you sabotaged the relationship. After all, you were sticking up for him. Diabolical. From talking with her about her relationship, you’ll know what she really wants. And you’ve created a void from what she wants and what she currently has. It’s time to fill that void. Slowly, start acting like the man she wants to have. If her boyfriend never gives her anything, casually give her gifts. If she is sexually frustrated, increase your flirting with her.

While this is happening, you also need to start making her jealous of you. For example, jealous of other women in your life. You must date other women, and make sure she knows about it. Even better — date women you know she doesn’t like. This does two things. First, it makes her wonder why you go out with women she dislikes, instead of women like her. That’s good. Second, it demonstrates you have attractive qualities, because other woman find you attractive.

What else? If you can manage it, get her friends to help. Only do this if you’re sure you won’t get caught. This works two ways: have them think highly of you, and lowly of her boyfriend, and that she should date men of your quality, and not his.

This process takes time, is fraught with peril, and is ethically questionable. Actually, it is much easier to forget about that girl and spend your time on women who are single. That’s nice in theory. However, in the real world I meet guys every day who know this is true, but still can’t get the “magical woman who has a boyfriend” out of their head. If you really want to go down this road, I have given you the map.

Use it at your own risk!

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Is Your Butt Too Small to Win Your Man?
By Catherine Behan

$848,000,000 was spent on Shapewear by American women last year. $848 MILLION.

What if that very fashion accessory is KEEPING YOU SINGLE?

Today on the CBS Morning Show there was a feature on a segment of that market, the Booty Boosters. Apparently, the Butt is the ‘”It” factor in sex appeal this summer…no kidding! According to the report, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian are making big money showing off their full, curvy butts and women all over the country are buying butt pads to enhance their booties.

How is this hurting your soul mate search?

The problem is that at the end of the day, you will be taking off your faux butt, taking out your contacts, peeling off your Spanx, sponging off your eye makeup and in every way being your true physical self with your man.

If you want to attract True Love, there is only one way and that is to fully accept yourself….just the way you are, right now. I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t dislike at least one part of their bodies. How about you?

Are your teeth too yellow? This is my personal challenge. Even tooth whitening doesn’t help. Yes, the treatment lifted my color two to three shades but that is not enough to please me. It doesn’t help that NOBODY on stage and screen has ‘normal’ colored teeth anymore. Don’t believe me? Watch a movie from the 70?s and look at the smiles.

Maybe you wear glasses and over depend on your contacts for your sense of self worth. Do you feel ugly with your glasses on?

Is your hair your challenge? Too curly, too straight, too frizzy, too little of it, too much of it? Do you know that people spend over 2 trillion dollars on hair care products and services in one year?

Maybe it is your height that bothers you. Is it near impossible to meet a man who is tall enough for your preferences? Do you dislike being so short?

Maybe you hate your feet, your freckles or your facial hair.

The botox business is booming and don’t get me started about plastic surgery. Imagine how much travel you could pay for with the money you are spending to create an image you hope will attract Love and Connection.

What’s a body to do?!?

There is nothing wrong with enhancing and preening and preparing yourself to be noticed. Illusion is fun and an important part of seduction and romance. Women have been using cosmetics and jewelry for thousands of years to attract a man’s attention.

The woman who get what she wants….a lasting relationship with a man who adores her, is the woman who knows the biggest secret of all.

She knows that the Truth of her attraction is her ability to accept herself…warts and all. She knows that her external appearance is but a glimpse of her full Essence. She understands that at the end of the day, a man wants to come home to someone who accepts him completely.

It is a humbling experience to feel deeply accepted by another human being….with no strings. When you know you can offer that to a man, you are irresistible. The best way to practice this magical attraction tool is to use yourself as a test bunny. Write a list of all of the things that you don’t like about yourself. How many do you come up with?

If you only have 1 or 2, yay! You are a role model for others and you no doubt have many friends and colleagues who enrich your life right now. Even if you are still single, you are probably pretty content with your status right now.

If you have 4 or 5 flaws that bother you, you are about average. You may find support in 12 step groups or a Course in Miracles Class. Make a plan to cut your list in half. Make a conscious effort to accept yourself at a deeper level than you have. Your loneliness and isolation are directly related to these aspects that are draining you.

If you have over 7 personal issues that you dislike about yourself, I suggest you find a mentor, coach or counselor. It is exhausting to carry this much self-criticism. Believe me, no one notices whether your freckles are getting darker or your feet have a strange shape. What makes a man feel great with you is his CONNECTION to you. If he feels like you “get him” he will adore you. The few ‘flaws’ that you have and are trying to cover up are keeping True Love just out of your reach.

Next time you want to buy something new to enhance your Outer Look, look in the mirror and ask yourself…”Will this help me accept myself or hide myself?” This simple question is a powerful step in tuning in to your true identity. It is who you REALLY are that is irresistible to that special someone!

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What Part Does Sex Play in Casual Relationships?
By Lidy W Seysener

I received a wonderful email last week raising a question about the definition of ‘casual relationship’ opposed to ‘serious relationship’. I have some thoughts on this but I would love to throw this out to all of you for your thoughts as well.

The person who sent the question thought that, for her, a casual relationship becomes a serious relationship when sex comes into play. The person she was having the conversation with on this topic, a male, suggested that even casual relationships could be sexual.

I’m going to agree with both and I think what it comes down to is not so much the definition of ‘relationship’ but more the definition of ‘sex’. Sex can be present in casual relationships though, for many, this might be considered more something a man would do rather than a woman. The argument here is often that while sex for a man can be purely a physical act, for a woman sex is always emotional. The truth about this is that, I believe, that sex can be purely physical for a woman as well.

On the contrary though, sex in a serious relationship is more likely to be an emotional act for both people as this now becomes less about satisfying a selfish physical need for sex and more of a representation of one person’s love and care for another by which sex becomes more a selfless act of pleasing another person.

So what then is the definition of ‘relationship’? This one sent me scurrying to the dictionary which said, amongst other things, that “relationship is an emotional connection between people, sometimes involving sexual relations”. Obviously there can be many kinds of relationships between people but I guess we most often think of relationship as some intimate connection between two people and if this is serious then indeed there may be a sexual connection as well though not necessarily.

So, as my reader also suggested, “there is no answer to this, because of our sexual biases (or desires)”, but a topic that is well worthwhile opening up for discussion.

What do you think?

If you would like to enter into this conversation please add your comments via the link at the bottom of my blog.

So until next time – Relate with Love

Lidy Seysener

About the Author

As a qualified Counselor, Lidy Seysener specializes in helping individuals and couples make the most of their lives and their relationships. She’s been Counseling for more than twenty years and can also boast having been in an enduring relationship for as long.

For more information about me or what I do take a look at my newest website: http://www.acouplesjourney.com where you will get a free copy of my limited edition eBook titled ‘Relationships – A Couples Journey’. Alternatively check out my blog page at: http://www.lidysblog.uwcblog.com and submit a question of your own that you would like me to answer.

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